Intro For Women
We have never met, but I am taking the liberty to write you because I understand that your significant other has become interested in nudism or clothes-free recreation. You are wondering whether or not to share in this. My husband and I are nudists, and like you, we both experienced all the concerns and uncertainties the first time we tried it. All the vague fears and worries I fretted about proved groundless. I would like to help you experience and become comfortable with this lifestyle. I hope you will let me try.
Perhaps telling about my first experience with nude recreation will lead you to that end. I was vacationing at a resort in the Caribbean. The first two days were spent on the beach sitting in a soggy swimsuit and being chafed by sand. I signed up for a day boat trip and picnic at a beach on an island away from the resort. As we were leaving, I discovered that the excursion was to an island with a nude beach! I decided to go anyway, thinking no way was anybody getting me out of my suit. I stood firm, and in fact, was the last person to give in and shed my swimsuit—I was the last one to get dressed to return to the resort. Why hadn’t someone told me about this sooner? I was hooked, and that was over 30 years ago. The phrase, “nude when possible, clothed when practical,” definitely describes me. I do wear at least shoes when vacuuming the house though as I have a habit of running over my toes with the vacuum cleaner.
I admit that my first reaction was that this is something that was not an acceptable practice. I was unaware that there are national organizations and did not know anyone who could shed light on this relaxing way of life. The literature available today, some of which your significant other might have asked you to look over, tells it like it is. Everyone will tell you that once you have made your first visit, the feeling of apprehension will vanish. Until you experience a thing for yourself, words cannot tell you how you should feel or how you should act or react.
Believe in your mate. You have a good relationship, and I’m sure your significant other has never asked you to do anything that was wrong or really unpleasant. Occasionally, we don’t want to do some things at first, but since it means a great deal to him, it usually turns out fine. This too, means a great deal to him. When you decide to visit a club, give them a call and inform them that this will be your first visit. Contrary to what most people believe, you generally will not be asked to leave your clothes at the gate. You will be given a tour of the premises, where the pool or hot tub, or other facilities are located. If you are visiting a non-landed club, you will most likely visit with some of the members at a neutral location, i.e., coffee shop, after which you will be invited to an event.
Some common fears of women with whom I have been in contact include being secretly worried that she wouldn’t be as attractive to her spouse as she had been, compared with all the beautiful figures she was sure must be there.
For the most part, there is a normal cross-section of the population. The solution for this particular lady was the security she felt in her relationship and that the relationship was based on more than just physical attractiveness. Another fear is what sort of people will I meet. You will meet doctors, lawyers, clergymen and women, taxi drivers, accountants, secretaries, warehouse- men, waiters, school teachers, moms, dads, grandparents, teenagers, infants. We are your neighbors, your friends.
It’s a wonderful feeling to meet entirely new people and enjoy new interests and activities. There is a peculiar thing you have to experience to believe, but there is a friendliness about nudists that you will generally not find in any other group. I have come to count our nudist friends among my closest. They seem to always be there for me, for us.
Why don’t you try your hand at being a nudist in your own home. Try sleeping nude, if you don’t already—once you get used to it, you won’t want to sleep any other way.
That’s the first easy step. Then, when you take your shower or bath, don’t grab for a robe except for comfort. Do your nails or set your hair or just read the newspaper. I think you will enjoy it. If you exercise, try it without clothes, it feels wonderful. Wear whatever you need to feel comfortable. Since it’s convenient and healthful at times to dispense with clothes, nudists do. We’re not different from other people, just more comfortable.
I hope I’ve been able to help just a little. Offer a compromise to your mate. Give him an hour of your time, you will wish you had sooner.
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It used to be hard for me to understand why anyone would want to become a nudist. Being naked was always so embarrassing and uncomfortable for me, even when alone or in front of my husband. I kept my body well-covered at all times. Fear of ridicule and humiliation kept me so uptight for so long, I often had nightmares about being seen naked. To give up my clothing willingly was something I would never have considered, especially as a lifestyle choice. I thought nudists were the beautiful people, either already perfect, or wealthy enough to buy it. What other reason would someone have to go naked in front of others? It must be a mutual admiration society, right?
This image of perfection as a criteria for being a nudist couldn’t be further from the truth. Nudists don’t congregate to worship and admire each others’ perfect bodies. We gather together to shed uncomfortable clothing and to experience the joy of feeling the sun and wind all over us—not just on the body parts that society deems acceptable to be seen. Sharing the lifestyle with like-minded people further enhances our nudist experience. Nudism is not about being seen; it’s about the freedom to accept ourselves and others just as we are.
We are no different than you. We are normal people with jobs, families, joys and sorrows. We are young, old, thin, fat, Black, Asian, Caucasian, gay and straight. Love of this lifestyle brings us together as friends. Nothing else can give such a wonderful feeling of freedom as moving away from social dictates and living naturally whenever possible. I know that freedom means different things to different people. For those of us who enjoy nudism, freedom requires taking a huge step across social barricades into something that many claim to be perverse and sinful. It is not.
It is nearly impossible to understand how wholesome nudism is without experiencing it for yourself. I made the choice to try nudism because I needed so badly to overcome the negative force that body-shame was having on my life and my attitude toward myself. I never dreamed how far-reaching and positive the effects would be. When I saw a child playing naked in the mud without reprisal from angry parents worried about ruined clothing, I knew I had come home at last. At long last. And then I played naked in the mud, too.
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